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Stop Leading Everyone The Same Way

Tatiana Resende2 min read

Most leaders default to one leadership style and apply it to everyone on the team, regardless of the project or the person. That approach ignores something obvious once it’s pointed out. Different people, and even the same person on different projects, need a completely different kind of leadership to actually succeed.

The Two Things That Actually Matter

Situational leadership comes down to two variables, and nothing else. How skilled is this person on this specific project, and how committed are they to seeing it through. Both shift constantly, which means the right leadership style has to shift right along with them instead of staying fixed by title or seniority.

Score The Person, Not The Title

The simplest version of this system rates both variables from zero to two, then adds them together to decide how to lead.

  • Zero points, no skill and no commitment, means the project belongs with someone else entirely
  • One point calls for step by step instructions, close to hands on management
  • Two points means handing over the system while still checking in and gathering input along the way
  • Three points shifts to encouragement and an open door, without hovering over the work
  • Four points is full delegation, handing the project over and letting them run with it

That total score, not the person’s job title, is what should decide how much oversight a project actually gets.

Why This Beats One Size Fits All Leadership

A brand new hire on an unfamiliar project needs something completely different than a senior team member tackling something they’ve done a hundred times. Leading both the same way either smothers the experienced person or sets the new one up to fail quietly. Matching the style to the actual score removes the guesswork and stops leadership from becoming a personality default.

Bottom Line

Leadership style isn’t a fixed trait, it’s a decision that should change project by project and person by person. Score the skill, score the commitment, and let that number tell you how much rope to give. Explore Invest in Your Leaders and discover how to cover this exact framework in detail, along with eleven other core skills every operator needs to build a stronger team.

Written byTatiana Resende

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